Lifestyle Therapies

Returning to normal seem scary?

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My tips to make it easier for You:

1. Be accepting of yourself and others!

As I said, all of us needed to deal with the past year, and it was a new and hard situation for everyone. You might have actually handled it really well, but others might not have. And you won’t know that until you start speaking to the other person!
So, if you come across a situation where something that others do, is not matching with your ideas, just remind yourself: ‘just like me, they have been gone through hard times as well’. Make sure you provide an accepting environment for others, just as you do for yourself!

2. Be honest with yourself.

We need to look into ourselves and honestly admit the way we feel. You need to know that whatever you feel is a valid feeling, and you should accept it, instead of judging it on any level. The ‘others look so much better’ or the ‘others seems so much happier’ attitude won’t help you find your way back, these thoughts will only push you into self-shaming, and that’s a really hard state of mind to leave. If you can honestly admit and accept your feelings, the whole returning to normal can become an exciting experience to discover your new-self.

3. Be proud that you’ve changed.

Changing might sound like a scary word, as you would like to stay honest and true to yourself, but changing can actually be an amazing process. It means that you have realised that your current self is not the best for the given situation, but you have been able to adapt. So no, changing is not a bad thing, as long as you feel the changes close and connected to yourself.

Be proud that you’ve evolved.

4. Don’t be scared to ask for help.

As I’ve mentioned, some people have handled last year easier than others. It’s always happening and it’s completely normal. If you are amongst those who’s been hit really hard emotionally by the Covid-period, ask for help.

There are many of us, prepared to help you, and there are many different forms of help that you can choose from.

Most of us do online sessions, but as we move out of lockdown, I’m pretty sure you’ll find in-person therapies if you need closer human contact.

There are also many different methods, that we helpers work with, so you can do a little research and if you find some practices preferable, you’ll easily find the best person to go to.

There are various options available regarding time-frames and prices, so I’m sure, if you jump online and have a little look, you’ll find the best person to work with. All you need to do is ask for help if you feel too overwhelmed to deal with the situation alone.

5. Be open and experience everything like you did the first time.

As we are coming out from the Covid-period as slightly changed personalities, you will possibly feel like you’re experiencing everything for the first time!

Do you remember how it felt entering a pub pre-Covid? How do you feel now? Have you been burnt out going to work all the time before, but now you feel like this is your first day and everything is new?

Take these ‘new’ experiences as a chance to really understand your new self. Pay attention to how you feel towards different things and examine if you have changed anything or not. Change the scary into an exciting experience by staying open to the new ways you see the world around you now.

Bonus tip!

Don’t be scared to protect your ‘new you’

If someone treats you in a way, that you don’t like anymore, be brave and say it out loud, that this is not something you can tolerate going forward. You don’t need to be harsh, just simply explain, why it is hurtful to you. Stay honest to your feelings. If you don’t like it when people stand too close to you anymore, say it out loud. Or if you would like to keep your mask on for little longer, and someone mentions it in a bad way, simply explain why you prefer to use it. If other people don’t understand your reasons, that is not your fault. You can only make a mistake if you are not loyal to your own needs and feelings.

I really hope that you find these little tips helpful on return to the post-Covid life, and as I mentioned, if you need any help, make sure you get in touch with one of us, as we are prepared to make this transition as smooth as possible for you.

About the author

Tiffany Varpalotai

Tiffany Varpalotai

CTAA accredited counsellor and Human Behaviour Analyst

I’m Tiffany Varpalotai a 25 year old Hungarian woman living and working in the UK since September 2019.
I have a Psychology BSc degree (Human Behaviour Analyst) from back home, and after University started work in transportation thinking that psychology was not for me.
Later on we moved to the UK, and I started working in a different field (again), then Covid hit and we needed to rethink everything we had planned.
That’s when I realised that I actually really love, and am interested in, helping people, and I only left psychology because there were too many statistics and not enough ‘helping humans’ experience.
I found Dr. Karen E Wells’ online counsellor courses and completed 3 of them straight away.
All these courses are accredited by the CTAA International body, and connected with insurance companies to make sure all their members are doing quality work.
I set up my own private counselling practice at the beginning of 2021, focusing on individual-, couple- and body therapy counselling.
I really enjoy connecting my scientific psychology knowledge with the practical exercises I’ve learnt during my counselling studies, and I never stop looking for new methods to learn, to make sure I can provide the most suitable help for my clients.

If you are interested in working with me, please contact me by simply filling out the contact form on my website: tiffanyvarpalotai.com

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